I’ve always been an enthusiastic member of the Tinder bandwagon, and I’ve always been vocal about it—the good, the bad, and yes, the ugly. In this storyline in my mind, we would bond over And this one time, it worked.
I even made sure to include the fact that I was sober in my bio, thinking it would keep anyone from messaging me and asking me to grab a drink. Out of the bazillion people using Tinder, I found ONE other sober person (one who was open about it, at least). Long story short, he went back to using, dropping me in the process, and I faced a long road of nursing a shattered heart, knowing that finding another sober person on Tinder was a long shot. Then I met my current boyfriend, and even though he isn’t sober, all is right with the world again.
Recovery is a time for self-care and reflection, establishing structure and controlling urges.
Most weeks, Saturday nights are spent at 12 step meetings.
I’ll admit, I was also thinking that maybe it would inspire a young, sober guy to message me.
We went to an AA meeting on our first date, went on to have a few more dates, and texted and spoke on the phone constantly. But, I’d be lying if I said it hasn’t crossed my mind that a Tinder for the sober community would be a brilliant idea—not necessarily for dating, just for the sake of meeting new people like myself.
Facing uncharted dating territory without your usual liquid courage can increase your risk for relapse.
You might make up excuses as to why you aren’t drinking (i.e.
Christian Mingle matches up people for whom faith is a central part of their lives.
To be clear, no professional would ever recommend dating in early recovery.
But, we have to be realistic and look at cases individually.
Although Sexy and Sober Singles is just getting off the ground now, they both have high hopes that the site—the first of its kind—will flourish.
“Everybody should be connected in one way or another," Kole tells .